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FAMILY AND DIVORCE. FAMILY SUPPORT?

Family and Divorce. Family Support.  Is your family gathering around you? divorce-family-support

 

When your family gathers around you how will that affect your divorce and your future. Will it look anything like this…

  • Dad gets you the best family law lawyer in town—pays the retainer.

  • Mom tells anyone who will listen that your Husband is no longer welcome in her home.

  • Brother’s offer to beat the p—out of your Husband.

  • Your Sister has given you names of new doctors for the children so you can keep your Husband out of the loop.

  • After a couple beers or glasses of wine at a family gathering family members vent all their hurt and anger about Husband.

  • When mediation is brought up, Dad says “no way!”.

OR Is this a possibility….

  • Dad listens to you and ask how he can help. Offers financial assistance as you request.

  • Mom and family talk about what they can do for the children.

  • Family members offer to go with you to meet with lawyers and take notes for you.

  • When your family sees your Husband they are cordial and familiar, especially in front of the children.

  • Husband is invited to a birthday party for one of the children.

  • Family is supportive of a resolution that offers you what you need as well as your children and Husband.

NOW…ask yourself and your family….

Which picture puts your children first?

Which picture allows you to move on with your life?

Are the choices you are making and the behavior of your family supporting your long term goals.

Which picture employs the best use of financial resources?

            The first example is an attorney’s dream client.  The matter will drag on and have lots of complicated and emotional moments, therefore requiring lots of time from your lawyer.  That means a lot more money in their pocket and a lot less for you to begin the next leg in your life’s journey.  Have a plan, one based on reason not emotion.  Then hope your family supports these long term goals.  Everyone “wins” under these conditions.

See also:

ARE YOU STAYING TOGETHER FOR CHILDREN’S SAKE

7 CRUCIAL FACTORS FOR NEGOTIATING YOUR DIVORCE SETTLEMENT